From a childhood saying we’ve all heard:
“Those trying to help are often hurting us the most.”
As a mother, this hit me hard — I see many kids of today are acting very emotional and are becoming more fragile, emotionally weak and less resilient.
It’s my understanding as a mother, that overparenting… breeds… poor coping skills.
- If we protect children from various classes of potentially upsetting experiences, we make it far more likely that those children will be unable to cope with such events when they leave our protective umbrella.
Kids shouldn’t be raised like “candles” that go out at first wind 
- Let them be fire
Wind extinguishes a candle but energizes fire.
Here I am, I feel it’s a serious topic worth talking about.
What better place than 1Hack?
So please hear me out fully before judging… this is just my honest thought.
Parents sometimes over-care and over-protect in the name of “love” — basically trying to make sure their child never sees reality, never feels discomfort, never experiences the harsh parts of life.
But that doesn’t protect the child.
It weakens them.
Because the day the child finally steps outside, the world doesn’t treat them like home.
The world is the world — blunt, unfair, fast, indifferent. And if a child grows up in a bubble, that first contact doesn’t teach them… it shocks them.
That’s where the negativity starts.
Instead of adapting, the child starts freezing.
They stop accepting life as it is, and begin tagging the whole world as “garbage.”
And once someone decides “the world is garbage,” they stop looking for anything good inside it.
They don’t learn how to extract value from life.
They don’t learn how to take opportunities, build skills, form relationships, or survive pressure.
They just avoid, complain, shut down — and slowly fail in every area, because the same world they hate is the same world they must live in to survive.
The child becomes like a weird version of “freeganism” — treating life like a trash pile:
limited participation, minimal involvement, minimal consumption, staying on the outside… instead of spending, they start limiting. 
Almost like choosing to live on the edge of society.
Except real life isn’t a dumpster diet. The world has pain, yes — but it also has growth, reward, beauty, and benefits if you learn how to navigate it.
So when parents overprotect like this, they aren’t “loving.”
They’re quietly doing something evil:
They’re killing their child’s world before the world even gets a chance to teach them how to live in it. Do not handicap your children by making their lives easy. You’re saying “comfort-as-love” can become damage because it removes the training ground.
Prepare the child for the road, not the road for the child.
Prepare the Child for Reality, Not Vice Versa 
To all 1Hackers raising the next generation — how are you teaching resilience without breaking spirit? Drop your actual tactics, not theory.
true!
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